Cool poll! I do wanna clarify one of my answers so I don't look like a back-stabbing bitch, lol. The question about the filters for bitching about people...I put yes, but only because I DO have filters that keep one or 2 individuals from seeing certain things, but I don't actually say anything about THEM. Mostly it's if I can't trust them, or like my sister's on my flist and I don't want her to know about all the kinky shit I talk/write about in my lj, lol. But I've been on LJ for about 4 years now, and I think I've only openly bitched about someone on here (not counting those I know in RL, cause that's very different), maybe twice in that whole time. I mostly just use the filters to keep certain people from knowing certain personal things about me, but I never actually talk about them personally.
I can totally understand where you're coming from. Nobody in my RL knows about my journal or any of my fandom stuff, like comms and message boards etc. I just wouldn't be comfortable with them being able to read my squee'ing and other stuff. I'm sure if they did know about my journal I'd filter them from everything. :)
No problem!! It's always interesting to see what people do and don't do around here and for what reasons. :)
And I actually started on LJ because one of my RL friends told me about it. And for the first year and a half or so, my only friends were people I knew in RL, and all I talked about was my day-to-day boring life, lol. Well, that was a very BAD idea, and I got burned, and quickly learned my lesson. Then when I got into fandom, my journal turned into something VERY different than what it had started out as, lol. But it's always fun to see how both I and it have evolved over time. But I no longer let any of my RL friends see anything in my LJ (minus my sister, for my everday life stuff that she likes to keep up to date on). Besides, I think I'm the only one left who's actually kept up w/ it. Most everyone else has long since abandoned LJ, lol.
*nods* I have never been an open person, I mean sure gushing about fandom stuff I'm all over that, but to write down my feelings for the world to see whether I know them from RL or not, just isn't my thing. I will once in awhile when something is really bothering me but in general, nope. :) I like listening to other peoples problems though *shrugs* I'm the listener in my group of friends. *nods* :) but you do have to be careful because you never know when somebody is going to turn on you, it's happened ot me before both in RL and on LJ but then agian you can be to guarded because you might miss out getting ot know somebody awesome that way.
I've never cut anybody and I don't know if anyone's cut me because I don't get notifications for that. :P I guess it's just better now to know... Besides, I don't talk about anybody in my lj unless it's to say how much I love them. :-)
I've cut one person because they really annoyed me, would not put any spoiler behind a cut and I was like ok I can't live with that anymore but mainly I only cut people if they cut me first, and even then it depends, like say I love their icons or something I'll keep them friended anyway. :)
I don't talk about people on my lj either, if I must rant about somebody (which is very rare) I bitch about them on IM LOL
I have never friended anyone based solely on their friendslist, but I have sometimes ended up chatting with someone in comments on someone else's journal or maybe read a fic or a post by someone and then checked out their userinfo, and sometimes the fact that we have many friends in common is a plus and one reason I might friend someone.
I used to friend anyone who had anything in common with me, but when my flist got too large, I started not automatically friending everyone I liked. *g* Now there are a lot of people that like and would probably enjoy having on my flist, but I interact with them mainly on communities and/or in comments on someone else's journal.
I said there are some people on my flist that I wish weren't there, but I wouldn't cut them. This is because I still like them, but we don't really have as much in common any more. There are many journals that I read and don't comment much, but these are journals I mostly don't read any more and I feel a bit guilty for it. *g*
I never paid attention to who cut me in the past, but then my daughter showed me how to see who had me friended (I think when they changed that "manage friends" page), and I saw that there were about 3 or 4 people who'd unfriended me and I didn't know. At least two of these were people I knew before LJ, and we still have many mutual friends and even now still sometimes interact on other journals. That stung a bit, but what can you do? *g*
I haven't friended anybody just because of who they have on their friends list either, but I've seen a couple people that do that, they see somebody cool on your flist so they friend you and I don't understand how that works because the person they are friending you for is still blocked out to them if the post something on their own journal but whatever.
I use to add anybody, if the showed up on my flist then I'd add them back right away but not now. I rant to much to have just anybody read my stuff. LOL I like to know who is listening. but if somebody asks then yeah of course I'll add them. *nods*
Understandable, there are a couple of people on my flist that I have just lost all touch with but I don't have the heart to cut them first, i'm hoping one day they'll cut me first LOL so I wont feel bad. I know it makes me a coward but whatever. :)
That's happened to me, you notice somebody missing from from your friend of list and then you notice it's somebody who you thought you were getting along well but apparently not, and then they always post those "it's nothing personal" posts, but on some level it has to be, right?
That's happened to me, you notice somebody missing from from your friend of list and then you notice it's somebody who you thought you were getting along well but apparently not, and then they always post those "it's nothing personal" posts, but on some level it has to be, right?
A couple of the people I'm thinking of did not post anything about cutting people. These are people I knew and was friendly with before LJ. We all migrated to LJ at around the same time and interacted at the other place and LJ at first, and then LJ became my main home, so I interact with them mainly on LJ.
My point is that we were friends before LJ and I don't really know why they unfriended me sometime since we've been on LJ. We're still friendly and still have all the same mutual friends that we had before LJ and since we've been on LJ.
I'm more hesitant to comment directly to their journals, but otherwise I'm friendly to them elsewhere. I assume it's because I've moved on to other fandoms and they mostly haven't, but we still have the same fandom in common, but it just seems weird, because within the group, everyone was friendly outside of fandom stuff, though when I think about it, I guess I didn't interact with them on a personal level all that much.
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I can totally understand where you're coming from. Nobody in my RL knows about my journal or any of my fandom stuff, like comms and message boards etc. I just wouldn't be comfortable with them being able to read my squee'ing and other stuff. I'm sure if they did know about my journal I'd filter them from everything. :)
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And I actually started on LJ because one of my RL friends told me about it. And for the first year and a half or so, my only friends were people I knew in RL, and all I talked about was my day-to-day boring life, lol. Well, that was a very BAD idea, and I got burned, and quickly learned my lesson. Then when I got into fandom, my journal turned into something VERY different than what it had started out as, lol. But it's always fun to see how both I and it have evolved over time. But I no longer let any of my RL friends see anything in my LJ (minus my sister, for my everday life stuff that she likes to keep up to date on). Besides, I think I'm the only one left who's actually kept up w/ it. Most everyone else has long since abandoned LJ, lol.
Hehe, sorry for the ramble. ;)
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I don't talk about people on my lj either, if I must rant about somebody (which is very rare) I bitch about them on IM LOL
thanks for taking the poll!
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I used to friend anyone who had anything in common with me, but when my flist got too large, I started not automatically friending everyone I liked. *g* Now there are a lot of people that like and would probably enjoy having on my flist, but I interact with them mainly on communities and/or in comments on someone else's journal.
I said there are some people on my flist that I wish weren't there, but I wouldn't cut them. This is because I still like them, but we don't really have as much in common any more. There are many journals that I read and don't comment much, but these are journals I mostly don't read any more and I feel a bit guilty for it. *g*
I never paid attention to who cut me in the past, but then my daughter showed me how to see who had me friended (I think when they changed that "manage friends" page), and I saw that there were about 3 or 4 people who'd unfriended me and I didn't know. At least two of these were people I knew before LJ, and we still have many mutual friends and even now still sometimes interact on other journals. That stung a bit, but what can you do? *g*
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I use to add anybody, if the showed up on my flist then I'd add them back right away but not now. I rant to much to have just anybody read my stuff. LOL I like to know who is listening. but if somebody asks then yeah of course I'll add them. *nods*
Understandable, there are a couple of people on my flist that I have just lost all touch with but I don't have the heart to cut them first, i'm hoping one day they'll cut me first LOL so I wont feel bad. I know it makes me a coward but whatever. :)
That's happened to me, you notice somebody missing from from your friend of list and then you notice it's somebody who you thought you were getting along well but apparently not, and then they always post those "it's nothing personal" posts, but on some level it has to be, right?
Thanks for taking the poll.
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A couple of the people I'm thinking of did not post anything about cutting people. These are people I knew and was friendly with before LJ. We all migrated to LJ at around the same time and interacted at the other place and LJ at first, and then LJ became my main home, so I interact with them mainly on LJ.
My point is that we were friends before LJ and I don't really know why they unfriended me sometime since we've been on LJ. We're still friendly and still have all the same mutual friends that we had before LJ and since we've been on LJ.
I'm more hesitant to comment directly to their journals, but otherwise I'm friendly to them elsewhere. I assume it's because I've moved on to other fandoms and they mostly haven't, but we still have the same fandom in common, but it just seems weird, because within the group, everyone was friendly outside of fandom stuff, though when I think about it, I guess I didn't interact with them on a personal level all that much.